Dear friends and loved ones
It’s been awesome over the last five days – just finished The Opening and man – what a ride I tell ya! Thank you from the depths of my heart to Martin and his team for opening the eyes to my heart and now being able to truly ‘see’ things and life and most importantly, myself for WHO I REALLY AM!
At this ‘intensive’ programme, we were taught to be ‘fully opened’ and not hide in ourselves anymore. One of the big learns and moment of realisation was that it’s okay to be selfish…
What do you mean, I hear some asking?
Well, it means to be unreservedly be ‘selfish’ and ‘fill ourselves with whatever we need to be better and greater people, so that we can go out there to affect more lives and transform others because of Who We Are.
On my way back from Colorado, I checked my email and there it was – the message jumping out at me:
Selfishness has its place
“Keeping an asset/deficit balance sheet even for a few days will give you an extremely clear picture of where you’re adding to your energy account, where you’re overdrawing it, and how you’re accomplishing both.”
— Doc Childre and Howard Martin
I contemplated on this and this is what I got in that ‘Moment of Truth’:
You may think it’s selfish to focus on your own personal needs and desires. After all, other people need your time and attention, right? Of course they do. But we can only serve others skillfully when we are well nourished and happy ourselves. Looking after yourself is the greatest gift you can give others, because when you genuinely meet your own needs, you can then more genuinely serve them in turn.
Based on experience, few people who are interested in self-improvement have problems with selfishness. Most are too selfless. They give of themselves until they’re drained dry and can’t give any more. This serves no one well. I know this very very well – I am one of these kind of person.
I would like to invite you to explore how taking the time to look after yourself makes you better able to love and serve others. I ask myself these questions – maybe you could ‘contemplate’ on them and see what turns up for you? … Are your ready to be ‘fully opened’ to your own truth?
*In a typical week, how many hours do you give to others?
*How much time do you give to yourself for what you most want to do or go deep into yourself to find out WHO YOU REALLY ARE?
*How can you better balance personal time with focusing on others each week?
Here’s some suggestions to help you get on a roll…
Be self nurturing. Start using ‘I’ more often than ‘You’. Book at least one appointment each week in your calendar for you alone. Go out to breakfast or lunch by yourself. Go for a solitary nature walk and soak in Nature’s beauty and perfection. Take a mini retreat even if it is only for a few hours or a day or even a week!
Whatever you do, know in your heart that it’s okay to be selfish because we want to serve more people – but we can’t UNLESS we get bigger with ourselves and the only way of this is to BE SELFISH and feed ourselves first before others.
Honour yourself. Appreciate yourself. Explore yourself. You need time and space to find your true expression. My most insightful meetings are with 3 people – me, myself and I. Take this group of ‘3’ and connect with who you truly are – this ‘3’ is like your own Holy Trinity…
Pamper yourself – you are worth it!
Think about this:
“When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people. The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be toward others.”
— Eda LeShan
I now realise this for myself … so what are you willing to do to know yourself in all your truths?
Looking towards a Bigger You and to our Selfishness to be that Bigger Me!